3 Things I’m Not Resolving This Year (and 3 I am)

Happy New Year Everyone!!!!

No better way to start out the new year than with a head cold! Things can only get better from here, right?

Everyone’s been talking about their New Year’s resolutions (or ignoring them), and I’m doing the same, just typing them out in between sneezes and episodes of Dr. Quinn: Medicine Woman.

It’s been a few years since I made any resolutions (having annual babies will do that…), and I wanted to this year. But…..I wanted to do it differently this time around.

So here are three things I’m not doing this year…..and a few that I am!

1. I’m not going to make unrealistic goals.

I don’t know about you, but every January I fall into the trap of attempting to perfect every single area of my life (anyone else?) Then I get frustrated when I can’t keep up with my own bizarre expectations. This year will have realistic goals; plans that reflect the actual life I lead, and not a fantasy version in my own head.

For example: January makes me want to start on all of my projects and plans, but guess what? January is also when I work on our taxes…..which means, realistically, there is not time for much else. And that’s ok! Instead of stressing out about it, or becoming frustrated over unfinished projects, I need to plan to start them in another month or two.

2. I’m not going to make vague goals

You name it, I’ve probably used it….”drink more water”, “exercise more”, “read more”, “lose weight”, “be a better mother”, “be a better wife”, etc… Now, these are all worthy resolutions, but carry little practical application or direction. And without either of those, they just become words without meaning, plans without purpose, and before you know it, fall by the wayside.

So this year is a year for specific goals! If I’m going to drink more water, then maybe I’ll start the day with a full glass. Or for a fitness goal, I’m aiming to up my weights from 10 lbs to 15 lbs by the end of the year. If I want to be a better wife and mother, then I need to think out what exactly that means, and how it practically applies to the lives of my family.

3. I’m not going to try to maintain a “picture perfect” home

Maybe this one seems backwards. Most people go into the new year with plans to clean more, declutter, and organize their homes. And I LOVE these! I’d hop on that bandwagon in a heartbeat! But I’m not talking about an overhaul here, just maintenance.

With four little ones running around, a husband who works two jobs, and unpredictability of a good night’s sleep, why am I adding the stress of maintaining a perfectly clean house every week? Especially when the only person creating that stress and expectation is myself.

Does laundry need to be washed? Yes. Do toys and bills need to be put away? Of course. Does the house need the be cleaned. Definitely, but will life as I know it completely collapse if it’s delayed a few days. NO!

Cleaning will be done, but this house is lived in, each and every day. It’s not picture perfect, and neither am I.

And I think I like it that way.


Now for what I AM resolving this year!

1. Begin each day with prayer

Some days it may be ten minutes of communing, other mornings it may be a heartfelt “Lord, please help me through this day”, but either way, to lift my soul in prayer before the demands of the day would be a habit worth making.

2. Make my kids laugh each day

It’s so easy to be swept up into the busyness of motherhood, with it’s hours of teaching, training, cleaning, wiping, scolding, cooking, rocking, and mending that you miss those delights. I want to make each of my kids laugh each day, and laugh right along with them. All of our souls need that, especially mine.

3. Make room for dreams.

Last year I began a “Dream Book”. Really it’s just an ever growing list of things I’d like to do, places I’d like to see, etc.. Some are big dreams, like to see the Northern Lights, others are smaller, like bake a cheese souffle, play giant Jenga, or ride a horse. So why not make this year a year of pursuing dreams, large or small? To show my children that even the smaller dreams are worth the effort? I think so!

So time to mark a few of those little dreams on my calendar to enjoy with my family!

Count your dreams


What are some of your New Year’s resolutions? What are you leaving behind, and what what are planning to pursue?


6 thoughts on “3 Things I’m Not Resolving This Year (and 3 I am)”

  1. I love the smaller goals! Making you kids laugh is the best. We moms get so wrapped up in the “perfect” and forget that we should find joy in the chaos. We can have the “perfect” when our kids are grown and out of the house!

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